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When Friendship Turns Poisonous

“How dare you talk to her, you’re my friend!” She screeched.

“What do you mean?” I said feeling utterly confused.

“You’re my friend only! It’s stupid that you’re talking to other people. So stupid!”

I gaped, “Are you for real?” I moved closer and lowered my voice glancing around the school hallway hoping that no one had heard her. “Why is it stupid for me to have other friends?”

She stepped closer and narrowed her small beady eyes, “Because you’re my friend and no one else should be. You’re not allowed to have other friends! Do you understand?”

“I’m not allowed?” I laughed; sure that she was teasing me.

But she didn’t smile. Her thin lips pursed.

“You’re crazy!” I moved back and noticed for the first time how much like a snake her dark eyes were.

How had they become friends anyway? Had she always been this creepy?

I took a deep breath, “I will have as many friends as I want, so deal with it!”

“You’ll be sorry.” She seethed.

I watched her storm away and knew that she meant every single word.

A shiver ran down my spine.

This was going to be a hard school year.

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Try Again

“I am not here to make friends ”

That was my go-to line when I first moved to Australia in 2015 when my best friend would ask me why I didn’t want to socialize with anybody at Uni or anywhere else. I had made it very clear to her that I came to Australia just to study and then return to my home country Malawi to settle down.

3 years of studying certainly brought that statement to life; I went to classes, the library, and then home. My routine never deviated from this; I had made up my mind that making friends was just not what I was here to do.

This statement was like a shield around my tiny, fractured heart, it was the layer of protection I needed to tell other people and myself that I was “okay” on my own. Beneath that protective layer of words, was a scared little girl. A girl who had trusted and been let down. A girl who had opened up and had the door slammed in her face.

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Posted in Lifestyle, Mental Health

Unfollow Those You Can’t Really Follow

“Do not covet thy neighbour (10th Commandment).”

Coveting is one of the major sources of dissatisfaction. Whether it may be material things or physical features of others. The Lord explicitly doesn’t want us to be jealous of our neighbour. That’s why he wrote the command for us to remember.

Social media has become such a large part of our lives over the last few years. It has opened us up to see the world from different lenses, but also made us see ourselves in clouded lenses.

It has become the destruction of many young girl’s body images.

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How To Deal With Body Shaming

It is so easy for us to get agitated when someone says something out of line. But when someone makes it personal and says something against our body, (something we can’t change). I would not blame you if you wanted to smack them out. Unfortunately, violence should not be our first action. There are ways to deal with body-shaming other than fighting someone because then you are no better than them.

Hurt People Hurt People

Many people that attack others normally have something they themselves are going through. That’s why it is highly advised that you don’t return the hate they are giving you for you don’t know their situation. It’s okay to be the bigger person. As people of faith, we should always show love to others (Matthew 22:39) even though they are the ones persecuting us.  

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Redefine Your Sexy

In today’s age we are constantly reminded of what society deems as sexy or body confidence. However, their version of sexy is always changing causing more confusion for those who are trying to attain that level of approval.

Most media outlets show us that the less clothes you have on the more confidence you have in your body. But do we really need to be showing more skin to feel sexy or confident in who we are? We don’t think so! There are so many other things that can define your sexy other than showing more skin. That’s why it is very important to find what makes you feel sexy and not what the world says you should do to feel sexy.

The bible tells us in 1 Timothy 2:9-10 “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.”

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